Real friends do not exist
According to this
Facebook application. Now you can buy & sell friends…
How silly is that!?
Friendship, What do you look for in a friend and what do you give to your friendships? I have been asking myself this question all morning. What makes a “good” friend?
Like all of us, I have had some friendships that dissolve for no apparent reason, or for reasons that I don’t always understand or recieve. But for the most part, most of my friends are tried and true.
I don’t know what to expect of some of them and they expect from me… But I know that I can count on some few of them in a crisis besides being honest. Some of my oldest friends will tell you that I am extremely blunt and direct like the Arabic quote “بيقولها بوجهك” (says it straight in your face).
I don’t make things shiny & glossy in order to make them feel better. I have tried to tone this down many times but It wouldn’t work, for that matter. Being honest is so key in my friendships that I can’t imagine not telling someone the truth if they ask for it.
At the same time, I expect my friends to do the same. (example: Moey come over and help me do this! while the real thing is: Moey can you do this for me and I take credit for it?) *hint. hint!
I pick brutal honesty over misguided kindness when my friends ask me for my opinion on something…I give it to them straight.
Unfortunately, There are some people out there they really don’t want to know the truth… they just want someone to tell them that what they are doing is amazing, marvelous & stunning even if you think it isn’t. They are not selfish, or dangerous, or misguided….even if you think they are.. They just need to grow up! and they don’t really want friends, they want enablers. They want people in their lives that can do their jobs and that isn’t healthy for them or those they love.
My life is too crowded for “friends” like that.
The application is made as an interactive tool between people. That’s all. Don’t take it personally Moey.. cuz if you do.. then you would think that 99.99% of the applications on Facebook are stupid and silly.. We all know they are!
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For the application, its useless just like every other facebook application. I don’t give a damn about them anymore, because if I did, I’ll end up removing my Facebook account!!!
For the rest, I can tell you that I’ve been told the same. They actually call me “Bege7″ “بجح”, because I always give them the truth in their faces, no matter what! But some people actually appreciate it, and always come to me for advice. Here is when things don’t balance for me.
I expect my friends to give me the same attention as I do, but this just never happens! This really pissed me off till the point where I stopped caring. That day I read a post on RebelliousArabGirl.com that made me realize that this should end. And I’m working on ending it now. So far, I’m doing good. But I have narrowed down my list of true friends to only a TWO…
Check out what I had to say about it…
that’s right , true friends stab you in the front
loooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooool
what will they think of next?
Great topic dude. I also suffered from my friends on many subjects. One is the lack of honesty, another is the disrespect of everything, and I always wished to gain the same attention I give, but couldn’t find that much except from too little. I’ve been through situation where I was passing and ignoring every single thing that piss me off from my friends, until I couldn’t take it anymore, where I started to filter them down! I made my own definition of what a true friend should be, compared them, eliminated who don’t deserve and appreciate what I’m offering (in fact I was giving them a chance more than they deserve).
Many people don’t even know how precious having a friend. Friendship and family is the most important thing to me, for all I guess. A friend who doesn’t respect me, who doesn’t appreciate my value, who doesn’t stand by my side when I need them, who is not trustworthy, who is not caring; is not my friend anymore (putting in mind that I give more in the first place).
A friend should forgive their friends’ mistakes. However, a lot out there don’t deserve being forgiven, at the contra, it becomes easy for them to hurt you as they know you will forgive them, you will then start to feel week.
It also happens a lot having beneficiary “مصلحجي” friends! They don’t know you till they need you! They ask for your support, but in fact –and as you mentioned, they are using you to benefit for their own, there is nothing wrong about that though. However, it turns ugly with a little foulness going around. Some may consider you as stupid or precisely “خاروف” because you did something for them.
Before a year or two, I was taking this with maximum simplicity. But with life complexity getting harder the older you get, you won’t tolerate someone who is pulling you down instead of lifting you up!
Sorry for the long comment
man man man man, easy, the application is nth but fun ! waste ur time, try some eamining ur mind in business and sth like that . so forget it for a while…
now about friends, the need of friends.. hmmm y do we need friends ? a friend is someone, shares or sometimes doesn’t share any interest with u, but .. the thing that always he/she shares with u , is COMMUNICATION ! someone to talk to, laugh with, have fun, share sadness happiness, etc etc etc…
some friendships dissolves, yeah yeah, that’s so true, its life ! not only friendships man, even families face the same thing ! can u deny that our relatives r no longer like they used to be in the past ? man .. kel ma el wa7ed keber, bekbar ma3o hammo! so take it easy ; )
a friEND, is meant to stay till the END
you know… friendship term become so strange maybe because each human own his personal term. On my behalf, i can’t consider my life without friends, real faith friends, someone to help you , while also “help” term is different , every thing is becoming as variables . nothing is stable but still it is exist .
what a life without a shoulder??? what a action without a company ????
life without friends is a wide jail , i love my friends, and i will be always near, …BIA
Go Moey! “Brutal honesty”- it’s the only way, man!
agree’s with z,say it in the face not by some text msg!nor posts!
i think real frends do exist u just have to be cafull not to loos them.because you may just be 1 person to the world,but you may be the whole world to one person.smile
Thanks for sharing